in which people are dumb
Aug. 23rd, 2006 10:00 amStill more proof that no, there really are still men out there who think like it's the 1950s. Dear Forbes: Fuck off.
Now, before I'm accused of being a hypocrite, let me lay this out very clearly: I, personally, would not particularly like being the breadwinner in a relationship. The careers and interests that I'm passionate about are not the kinds of pursuits that are likely to lead in that direction, and I would neither be likely to get, nor likely to enjoy should I happen to end up with, a lot of the jobs that are considered high-earning. Additionallly, I'm a beta-wolf personality by nature - I don't like to be the one in charge and making all the decisions. It tends to make me irritable, bitchy, and condescending when I'm stuck in that position, whereas if I'm with someone whose opinions and decisions I trust, I find it a relief to relinquish a little bit of control. It keeps me from stressing.
Now, maybe that's because I've absorbed the societal norm that women aren't supposed to want to be in charge. I don't know - I'm still working through that whole mess in my head and trying to figure out where all of that comes from and where it goes to. But I know for a damned good fact that a lot of the women I know are not like that. They'd be perfectly happy being the breadwinner in the family, thank you very much, and there is no way in hell some dumb-ass magazine should be telling men that no woman can be happy that way, or certainly that they shouldn't date "career" women.
I wish I could come up with something more coherent to say about this, but I'm not feeling that clever this morning.
Now, before I'm accused of being a hypocrite, let me lay this out very clearly: I, personally, would not particularly like being the breadwinner in a relationship. The careers and interests that I'm passionate about are not the kinds of pursuits that are likely to lead in that direction, and I would neither be likely to get, nor likely to enjoy should I happen to end up with, a lot of the jobs that are considered high-earning. Additionallly, I'm a beta-wolf personality by nature - I don't like to be the one in charge and making all the decisions. It tends to make me irritable, bitchy, and condescending when I'm stuck in that position, whereas if I'm with someone whose opinions and decisions I trust, I find it a relief to relinquish a little bit of control. It keeps me from stressing.
Now, maybe that's because I've absorbed the societal norm that women aren't supposed to want to be in charge. I don't know - I'm still working through that whole mess in my head and trying to figure out where all of that comes from and where it goes to. But I know for a damned good fact that a lot of the women I know are not like that. They'd be perfectly happy being the breadwinner in the family, thank you very much, and there is no way in hell some dumb-ass magazine should be telling men that no woman can be happy that way, or certainly that they shouldn't date "career" women.
I wish I could come up with something more coherent to say about this, but I'm not feeling that clever this morning.