The Rose's Grove

Hey, look - it's a post that sums up, like, practically everything I've ever wanted to flail about regarding being bisexual. Just in case you were curious.

Because it's nice sometimes to have one's slightly non-standard viewpoint validated by a stranger. ♥

Question: I cannot possibly be the only hetero- or bisexual girl in the world who doesn't find Zach Quinto attractive, can I?

Insert obligatory "not that there's anything wrong with that" clause here. I just don't, and it bemuses me because... well, because he's kind of got My Type written all over him, and yet I am so unmoved.

So... stand up and be counted, ye other 'nope, not seeing it!' people... because I'm feeling very alone in this right now, and slightly afraid that if I keep up with this whole 'sucked back into the old fandom' thing, I may just develop some sort of... backhanded attraction-by-association thing. o_O Sort of like how the more you watch Doctor Who, the more likely you are to eventually find yourself completely un-bothered by the idea of any of the Doctors? And to even sort of find all of them attractive? Or maybe that's just me... There but for the grace of 'dear god, no' go I, I suppose, anyway.

Anyway. Humor me, people. I'm feeling sullied and unusual exhausted and crummy from a messy day at work and a nasty bout of hormones.

Mayor Sanders of San Diego currently has my vote for most awesome living politician in the United States. I don't know anything else about him or his politics, but unless he's a truly Oscar-calibre actor, he did some real soul searching and eventually came to the conclusion that I wish more politicians would: That all relationships, regardless of the sex of the two people involved, deserve the chance to be equally recognized.

Big applause, sir. I wish all the politicians in this country had as much heart.

So... once again, bisexuals don't exist. Normally I would disagree vehemently with this statement, but at the moment I'm too busy wondering whether this qualifies as good reason to quit going to work and refuse to pay rent, bills, and my college debt. Since, you know, if I don't exist... I clearly can neither work nor owe anyone money.

Unfortunately, I'm pretty sure they mean that bisexuality doesn't exist, which means that I just cycle quickly back and forth between straight and gay depending on who/what I'm looking at. It's like a magic trick! Hold up a picture of Johnny Depp, and I'm straight. Hold up a picture of Gina Torres, and I'm gay! Straight, gay, straight, gay.... And no picture equals asexual! Tada! *Bows, waits for applause*

...Shut up, it was a long week. And we had wine at the end of the work-day. :P

Anyway, considering that the internet is so rabidly determined to deny my sexuality, I've decided to make a change. Henceforth, I shall refer to myself as "Snarky Somewhat-Roguish Intellectual Geek, Willing to Spend Time Outdoors But Will Not Pressure Me Into Snowboarding, Preferably With Nice Accent But That's Not Strictly Necessary, However Must Like Cats"-sexual. Specific enough for you? Okay.

Oh, and that whole "all bisexual women end up straight" thing? Let's think about this. Theoretically, 10% of the population is gay. I think that discounts bisexuals, but we'll stick with the conservative figure for the sake of argument. Now, that percentage probably gets tweaked by where you live, so let's assume that the population of Seattle includes... 7% women who are attracted to other women. And about 43% men who are attracted to women. By this logic, my chances of settling down with a guy are... what, about nine times better than settling down with a woman... despite the fact that, at the moment, I feel more attracted to women. This is particularly true since I think a lot of bisexuals (umm... I'm just guessing, from my own experience and watching othes) are either not that involved in the gay scene or just sort of... find the same sex attractive but prefer to stick with dating the opposite because it's easier from a societal perspective. It's the norm. People tend to follow norms, whether consciously or not.

And lastly? Even if I were to settle down and (gasp!) marry a nice guy - even if I was pleased as punch to be with that guy and had no interest in zipping off for an affair or whatever - I'd still be bisexual. Unless I just kind of... woke up one day and found women sexually repugnant (not likely, I'm thinking), that's just plain not apt to change. So pppphhhhbbbbbbbbt to society. :P

This rant brought to you by Fandom_Wank, Friday Wine Tastings at Office, and the letters THANK GOD IT'S FRIDAY.

I need a bisexuality icon. Ivanova will have to suffice for now.

Very eloquent and intelligent discussion of Blog Against Racism Week over at misia's journal. I'll let that list speak for itself in terms of my participation, because I really don't feel qualified to discuss the subject much, myself. I grew up white in suburbia. I'm working all that entails, and I figure that's the best I can do at the moment. Avoiding speaking for others, in a situation like this, seems like a virtue.

I will say, however, that point number three on the above link is something that has occasionally driven me to distraction. I understand curiosity (oh, do I ever), but I, personally, am very leery of asking questions that might be misunderstood as being too personal, too prying, hitting too close to things people don't want to talk about. I'll generally do a lot just to avoid asking questions directly, particularly about touchy issues like religion. On the other hand, I'm aware that assumption and silence is how people develop false assumptions. I'm always glad to speak about my personal experiences and impressions as a student, as a pagan, as a bisexual... what-have-you. It's the big questions ("What do pagans believe?") that throw me. I can answer "what's paganism" pretty well, especially from a historical perspective, but as for what we believe... ask a dozen pagans, get a dozen answers. And they're likely to disagree fairly strongly with each other on everything but the veeeeeery basics. And in my experience, that's the case with any group, particularly a group that's usually a minority. What feminists think, what Asian-Americans think, what Jews think, what Bostonians, Seattleites, Austin... umm.... Austonians?

Anyway, you get the point. But for the record, if anybody actually wants to know my opinion (gasp) on something that I actually have experience with, you all know that I'm talkative as all hell, and the only thing that holds me back from lecturing every time a holiday rolls around is that I really doubt you all want me on pontification-mode eight times a year. ;) I can only speak for myself, but I cherish the chance to begin a dialogue and keep things (especially matters like religion and sexuality, those controversial things that I feel that I can speak to some degree on) out in the open.